Your case seems complicated. I am sorry for what you are going through. I understand raising a child can sometimes be complicated. However, your child will soon get used to the situation. I am also glad that the two of you managed to go through the procedure. I am sorry for your partner not being able to conceive for the 2 years. I believe it was a rough road for her,. But that it went through with you she should be glad. She should stop blaming herself. Let her look forward in raising the baby girls., And oh! congratulations for the baby. Many other women out there are trying hard to get one. Now convince your partner not to feel out of place. She can try various other ways to deal with that issue. Have you tried seeing a doctor? what did they tell you? It could be better if you seek medical information in your case.