Hello stormi, I am really sorry about your post. Indeed no one wants to have thses options in their lives. The people whoe went for this I feel really sad for them. I am sure theses platforms providing better solutions to the problematic couples. Although, the treatment of theses type of issues is ver expensive. But from my own experience I found the well establish countries of the Europe are not so many costly. And affordable to all the normal families. As for as you are considering for IVF or Sorrugacy thses are not harmful. If you go for IVF then you have to be patient. It is a time taking method. Other wise you have an option of the surrogacy as well. this will surely a fruitful for you. looking forward for your positive answer for your pregnancy. Good luck