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March 31, 2018 at 6:32 pm #1612StormiParticipant
I’ve been thinking a lot about surrogacy and just wondered if anyone could give me basic information? If I went down this route. I would ideally want a baby of my own so IVF would play a role. But I don’t know how expensive IVF is and obviously. I’m aware that it doesn’t always work the first time. Maybe not even the fifth time. Also, in the likely event that nobody I know personally would be willing to give up their womb for 9 months to grow me a baby. How do you go about finding a surrogate? I’ve not made any definite decisions yet. And obviously if IVF/surrogacy is going to cost about the same as private treatment for me. As then it would make more sense for me to get treatment instead. By taking out a very hefty loan most likely. Just looking at my options at the moment really so any info would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.April 2, 2018 at 7:37 am #1651Sasha JamesParticipant
Hey there Stormi. How are you doing? I hope you are doing great. I am really sorry that you have to choose these options. however, let me tell you they are life savers. They are some of the best options we have. I know this because I have had surrogacy before. I was hesitant at first. However, I took the opportunity. I am now glad that I have two twin boys. I love them a lot. They are completely mine. I hope this helps you. I wish you good luck. Take care.April 2, 2018 at 3:21 pm #1656kim01Participant
Hey dont get so confused. There is the difference between surrogacy and IVF. In IVF the woman gets pregnant when she is not able to conceive naturally. On the other hand in surrogacy someone else does it for intended parents. It is for those who are literally infertile. I would suggest that you should go for surrogacy. The expenses depend upon which clinic you choose and what kind of package you select. Fertility treatments are way too expensive and sometimes, in the end, you may be fed up with all this. Hope this would help you.April 2, 2018 at 3:32 pm #1660AnonymousInactive
Now at the age of 43 i am married again to someone else and we want a baby of our own.
I know at this age it is quite difficult to have a baby off my own womb.
Keeping in mind all the complications regarding pregnancy now i think i should go for some other option to have children.
From my last marriage i had many complications regarding pregnancy.
I don’t have any other options left so far so surrogacy is the only solution to my problems i guess.
He agreed to my proposal so i started looking for clinics with good surrogacy records.
I founded many clinics regarding surrogacy and i picked up the few clinics too for further discussion with them.
I contacted many clinics and told them every aspect of our complications.
From their satisfied answers i guess some clinics are the best solution for having a baby.
So i suggest that you people should also do your own research regarding surrogacy and should contact different clinics for further details.
Like i was facing miscarriages every time i conceived.
But i’m worried about many other aspects like my behaviour towards the baby after knowing everything.
Like when the baby grows up what i should tell him/her.
So i persuaded my husband to go for surrogacy to have our own children.
If someone is raising a baby from surrogacy method please share your experience with us so we can learn something from your experiences.April 2, 2018 at 5:19 pm #1663monikaParticipant
Well, you are absolutely right. IVF may work or may not. As a lot of it depends on whether the embryo will develop. If it does develop it will be able to grow in your uterus or not. All the assisted conception methods are expensive. Whether it is surrogacy or IVF. It was definitely a concern for me as well. As in my town every agency, I go to they are charging a high price. The insurance doesn’t cover the assisted conception procedures here. So I had to research as well. I did come to a clinic abroad. They are fairly inexpensive. They offer two packages which included VIP and economic packages. Also, I was extremely confused about which process to opt for. I was more concerned about which process will work for me as I wasn’t ready to go for IVF again and again if it didn’t work out in the first place. The doctors in the clinic invite you for your first consultation meeting in which they basically helped me sort this problem as well.April 2, 2018 at 6:43 pm #1667hailey johnsonParticipant
Hey there. I might be able to help you out. I had my baby boy through surrogacy. I did it with the help of a Ukraine based clinic. My case was a while ago. Nowadays there are so many clinics. you should google it. There are many different packages. We compared them and the one in Ukraine was the cheapest. Best of luck. Cheers!April 3, 2018 at 5:11 am #1675Jess blingParticipant
Honey, IVF does have positive stories attached to it. It all depends on the person.Some people conceived in the first attempt. Others get success in like several attempts. Some did not get success at all. Also, you are right it is impossible to find a surrogate personally. The easiest way is to consult a clinic.Even if you wanna go for IVF you can have multiple attempts in the same amount of money. Your money will not go in vain. Find a clinic that offers many attempts. It will help you cover your financial issues. These clinics can also search a suitable surrogate to fit your needs.The legal matters are also taken care of. Just go for it. I can assure you will be a happy mother after few months.April 3, 2018 at 4:39 pm #1677ezabelParticipant
How are you doing?
You are just into very common confusions that each one often supposed to have while selecting in between IVF or surrogacy.
I am not saying such words to discourage you but your opinion about IVF is pretty right.
You won’t be able to scale about in which cycle you would be able to conceive.
This is a long-term process. Well! Surrogacy is also a long-term process. But once your surrogate conceives, and then there are no more struggles found.
But you have to be sure that the money you are investing has worth. Never waste your money on worthless things.
Look for the fertility clinics that offer valuable packages and services.
And they must assure you about a good surrogate.
In my experience I had two IVF failed. And dropped the idea of going for more cycles.
And I am also looking for surrogacy procedure.
Good luck with where ever you go.April 4, 2018 at 6:26 pm #1698ainaParticipant
Hello stormi, I am really sorry about your post. Indeed no one wants to have thses options in their lives. The people whoe went for this I feel really sad for them. I am sure theses platforms providing better solutions to the problematic couples. Although, the treatment of theses type of issues is ver expensive. But from my own experience I found the well establish countries of the Europe are not so many costly. And affordable to all the normal families. As for as you are considering for IVF or Sorrugacy thses are not harmful. If you go for IVF then you have to be patient. It is a time taking method. Other wise you have an option of the surrogacy as well. this will surely a fruitful for you. looking forward for your positive answer for your pregnancy. Good luckApril 4, 2018 at 7:51 pm #1706ClayJonesParticipant
Hey there Stormi. How is everything going? I hope its all great. I am really sorry you had to go for other options. I know it must hurt. Just be strong. It’ll pass away too. Surrogacy is a great option. Some good clinics find surrogates for you. I wish you good luck. Take care.April 5, 2018 at 3:11 pm #1720NINAParticipant
People have become harsh on all the people who are unable to have their children. They do not understand that they can be hurting other people. This is a wrong thing and you should not listen to them. You should go for surrogacy if you want to. Best of luck for it.April 5, 2018 at 5:08 pm #1723riazoyerParticipant
Hey, I hope you’re doing fine. I too have finally decided to opt for surrogacy. It was indeed a very difficult decision to take and one of the major reasons for that was lack of information. So it is great that you have started such thread. I never really cared about conceiving until I got married and immediately wanted to expand my family. However, I wasn’t getting the results until I visited a doctor who actually recognized my problem unlike the other. I was told that I had a poor ovarian reserve which was making it really difficult. However, now I am visiting a clinic which has been helping me in my journey of becoming a mother. Let’s hope for the best.April 5, 2018 at 6:47 pm #1733hailey johnsonParticipant
Surrogacy is a method or agreement whereby a woman agrees to carry a pregnancy for another person or persons, who will become the newborn child’s parent(s) after birth.Intended parents may seek a surrogacy arrangement when pregnancy is medically impossible, pregnancy risks present an unacceptable danger to the mother’s health, or a man or male couple wish to have a child. I hope this helps. Cheers!April 6, 2018 at 6:29 pm #1746smash12Participant
Hello Stormi. How’s it hanging with you? I trust you are doing awesome. I am extremely sad that you need to pick these choices. be that as it may, let me disclose to you they are lifelines. They are a portion of the best choices we have. I know this since I have had surrogacy previously. I was reluctant at first. I trust this causes you. I wish you good fortunes. Fare thee well.April 10, 2018 at 11:23 am #1786TrishaParticipant
Surrogacy is a fertility option for parents-to-be who are unable to have children of their own or for whom pregnancy would pose too much of a health risk. Using a surrogate mother, a couple or a single parent can have a child using the sperm and eggs of their choice. Either from themselves or from a donor. To have a child genetically related to them or a child with less risk of genetic diseases and conditions. However, using a surrogate mother is not your only option. Fostering can be a much more difficult job than having a child through surrogacy or adoption. Particularly a young child through the latter. But it can fill your need to parent children in need. There may also be treatments that can help you give birth to a child with your own eggs. Such as in vitro fertilization, gamete intrafallopian transfer and zygote intrafallopian transfer. Surrogacy presents a number of complications and expenses. But it may be the best option for you. However, don’t believe that it’s your only option until you’ve explored the alternatives.
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