I am not even from Chicago. But thought I should add a cent in the conversation. First of all congratulations. There have been people who have been going through a lot. Especially when it comes to looking for a baby. It always feels like a journey on its own. But now that you have a surrogate, it shows there is light at the end of the tunnel. Just be patient and finally you will have your baby. Concerning the forum I do agree with you. It is hard to find a place where people will understand you. These days people judge more than they care. They only care if it is beneficial. And that is not the way to go. Especially if you are dealing with fertility. They tend to make it seem like it is your mistake. Start hunting you with things you did in the past. Even if it does relate that is not the way to go. We should be encouraging each other instead. So that love and support is mainly found here.