I am so sorry about your struggle. 10 Years are too much. I have been struggling for 9 years and it has been pretty draining. I would recommend you to see a fertility doctor. I mean a good one. That has the most fantastic reviews or facility with the highest success rate. It is likely that IVF and IUI fail due to age factor or other uterine abnormalities. Moreover, the age you are in hinders the fertility. As the ovarian reserve tends to decrease. Since you are considering surrogacy then you may have to go for egg donations if your eggs didn’t work. But both ways, you will be able to achieve parenthood. Just make sure that your Gesataional surrogate is screened. The facility I have signed up with is more concerned with the health of surrogate as it directly impacts your baby. So, all the best to you.