I can offer ways in how you can discipline your son without hurting their feelings. In a way that he will understand that you love him. That you are doing so to help him. Tell and show your child you trust him to act responsibly as you discipline. Tell him you expect she will learn from this experience. Separate the deed from the doer. He is acceptable, lovable, despite her behavior. Through your disciplining voice and actions, reassure him that he has your continuing love and support even though you do not accept what he did. Always give him your belief that he will choose differently the next time a similar situation arises. Discipline is teaching combined with respect and support. it is not to be confused with punishment that shames and alienates children. How you build your child’s self-esteem on a regular basis gives you the foundation and the tools to discipline your child while still encouraging his self-worth