Hello, Berta. Sorry to hear about what you are going through. It is normal to have such thoughts right now. Actually, it is good. It is great that you are thinking about all the possible problems that could happen or if it is suitable to go for IVF or other options or not. This will help you find answers right now and you won’t regret any decisions later. Getting back to the point now. I don’t think it is a “cold way of sneaking your child in”. Can you do it naturally? No, you can’t. If you could what would be the problem here? Problems are meant to be solved. You cannot just live like this. You deserve to be a parent too. IVF is just a little help our body gets in order to conceive a baby. The rest of the process is natural. I really hope you get what I’m trying to tell you here. Please consider it. I had my son a year ago through surrogacy in Ukraine. Trust me it is the best decision I ever made. I don’t regret it one bit.