A fertility problem may be one of the most difficult challenges you’ll ever face. Acknowledging this is a key to coping. It’s normal to feel a monumental sense of loss, to feel stressed, sad, or overwhelmed. Don’t chastise yourself for feeling this way. Facing and accepting your emotions can help you move through them. Identify and share your feelings. If you’re always putting up a brave front. Others won’t understand what you’re going through, and you’ll feel even more alone. It can be helpful to sort out your thoughts and feelings by writing them down in a journal first. And then sharing whatever feels comfortable with trusted friends or family. Don’t blame yourself. Resist the temptation to get angry with yourself or listen to the little voice in your head that says negative things. People can get caught in negative thinking patterns that only make matters worse. Instead of berating yourself, look forward to how you are going to manage the situation. When you start feeling like you “should have” or “could have.” Remind yourself that your fertility problem is not your fault. Even if you could have made different decisions in the past, they’re behind you. Focus on the present. Work with your partner as a team. If you have a spouse or partner, help each other through this time. And don’t blame each other for your difficulty getting pregnant.