hi there. I second your thoughts. This is indeed a dilemma. The couple is already going through a lot and then questions like these.Depression is so common these days we all feel same when we think too much. I research too much about this and found some points i want all experienced people to suggest me like Having a baby is both an exciting and challenging time.Adding anxiety or depression can make it difficult to function and feel like you are a good enough parent. It makes the situation worse. I think the information should only be shared with very close people. I went for IVF but kept it confidential.It was successful after few attempts. And then we shared the news with our relatives.