These type of questions really hurt someone who is infertile or is TTC. This type of questions shouldn’t be asked by someone who is already having issues with TTC. I have been also asked these kind of questions many time.
Now at the age of 43 i am married again to someone else and we want a baby of our own.
I know at this age it is quite difficult to have a baby off my own womb.
Thinking of previous complications regarding pregnancy i would not try to be pregnant again.
From my last marriage i had many complications regarding pregnancy.
I don’t have any other options left so far so surrogacy is the only solution to my problems i guess.
My husband agreed for surrogacy so i started looking for clinics with good surrogacy records.
I founded many clinics regarding surrogacy and i picked up the few clinics too for further discussion with them.
I contacted many clinics and told them every aspect of our complications.
From their satisfied answers i guess some clinics are the best solution for having a baby.
So i suggest that you people should also do your own research regarding surrogacy and should contact different clinics for further details.
Everytime miscarriage happened to me.
But i’m worried about many other aspects like my behaviour towards the baby after knowing everything.
Like when the baby grows up what i should tell him/her.
So i persuaded my husband to go for surrogacy to have our own children.
Someone raising a child via surrogacy should share their experience.

Hey! I hope you’re well. This is such a brilliant post. I love that you’ve raised such an important question. You’re very honest, in this regard. It’s a feeling that almost every infertile woman experiences. I have experienced it many times as well. You can’t help feeling sad. I started avoiding social meetups back when I had my miscarriages. I saw a psychologist too. She helped me, a lot. It wasn’t long before I realized that this is a situation that we need to embrace. We have to accept our situation. Similarly, people need to realize that this is a problem that a lot of people struggle with. They shouldn’t look down on us. Neither do we need their pity.

Hi beautiful. Hope you are doing great. This is one of the brilliant posts I have read today. I really support your views. The infertile women must not be asked such questions. They are already going through a lot of pain. Questions like these further add to their sufferings. People must know the quality of the question they are asking. They should see what is the right time to ask them. Anyways, Thanks for sharing this. Take care.

Hey! It’s me, Julie. I hope you will be fine.
Exactly, you are right. But I think people don’t have right to ask such questions. It is the decision of the couple whether to conceive or not. I think some people who are suffering from infertility or other health issues mind on such questions. It should not be asked. It’s a private matter. Everyone has their own circumstances and aspects. It’s not necessary that they are infertile, maybe they are facing some financial issues or may not mentally prepared to conceive. If you are in a joint family system, you know you may facing such conditions. People are very curious to expect these things but they don’t have to ask. It may hurt someone. People should live freely.
That’s my opinion.
I hope you got my point.
Thank you.

Hi, Stormi, I hope you are fine. It’s a very common thing for people. To ask such questions. Because of they can’t understand the pain of infertility. Most of the people put all the burden on females. In some cases, males are also infertile. But it’s easy for them to put blame on females. But my Freind you have to be strong. Tell them that it’s your life your choice. Tell those people to keep their nose out of your matter.be happy with whatever you have. You will have children soon. Trust me and be strong. Ignore what people say. Till then best of luck

I know how much it is hurtful. Really infertility takes alot out of a woman. I always wanted to have babies. But sometimes something is not with us for better. I lost my 3 unborn babies. I had uterine polyps which left me infertile. I wasted my 5 years in treatment. I never thought that getting pregnant would be that much difficult. Now I have babies. I went to a clinic in Europe. I chose surrogacy for me. I never thought about this method but now I have no more worries. I am happy that I chose it. I am a happy mother I got my baby. I hope this would be helpful for other mothers too. I hope you’ll find your happiness soon.

Hey there thank you for creating this post. I recently was asked by a stranger “how many children I have?’ and also “what activities do I have planned for them?” Now, obviously, he didn’t know I was fighting this infertility battle. However, it did break me apart I did answer very kindly but had to rush home. My DH made me realize that people obviously don’t know the full story so I shouldn’t ruin my day but it truly not in my hands. Sometimes infertility journey can be so difficult to deal with and I hate it every single moment. I hope all those who are struggling are able to conceive.