hello Trisha!!! Hope so you are doing your best. I am so inspired by your post. It sounds good by reading your post. It seems that you have experienced alone parenting. This is really a difficult phase. Well if it belongs to the surrogate mother selection then you are not capable to do that. Not only you but also me and every other woman can’t do that. This is not a simple task. You can’t select any woman who you like most. It depends upon your genes situation. You should look after many terms and conditions. It’s better to leave this decision in clinics. The clinic will best find your match. You don’t need to find any person whom you think will be best for your child.