This is the one problem with in laws. They feel like they can make any decision in your marriage. Especially the mother in law. I always hate such families. Actually there are families that the mother in law has a say in everything. It will feel like you are the visitor. Like your husband is married to your mother in law. This is so sickening. My mother is this type. She has the say in my brothers marriage. I always tell her to stop doing so. My sister in law always comes to me complaining. I told her to assume my mother. I also do that sometimes. My mother is the one pushing us to do this. She just cannot stick to her business. Do what you want baby girl. You never got married to your mother in law. Then tell your husband to grow up. He should stop getting worried of every tantrum his mother throws in his way. The two of you are the ones in the problem not them.