My brother is gay and a dad. He is my twin also. You know that bond that always keeps two siblings together. Ours is much more. Our bond is so strong. We are also the only children in our parents life. It is unfortunate that they both passed away in a tragic accident. My brother was also involved in that accident. He was so lucky that he survived. But it made him lose his fertility. He never knew that during that time. He was so young. Barely 6 years old. This only came into light after his marriage to his partner. He tried using his sperms for surrogacy but did not work. He was later tested and found with some fertility problems. Traced all the way to when he was 6 years. So his partner decided to use his. He is fertile and the process was a success. They are now proud parents of a 4 year old boy. I shared this story to encourage other gay dads that nothing is impossible. It just takes your dedication.
So good to hear about your brother. I believe this will motivate other too. Now that they are gays and have children. Some people have been living long in infertility. It should encourage them that nothing lasts forever. This is not only for the gays. It should be a message to anyone out there. To know that there is more into life than crying over infertility. There are many means to deal with it. From all the option available. I believe there will be one that will work out. And if none works out. Just know that adoption is part of the process. It seems the two of you have been through a lot. Since childhood that is., But you have stuck together. So you should never stop encouraging each other. Motivate each other more often. let him feel okay with the infertility problem. I hope also hi partner is encouraging him. May the love never fade.