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    riazoyer
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    I think it is very hard to tell children that they are surrogate. How can a parent gather that much courage? This topic is very difficult and tiresome. But telling your children truth is the best option. I can parents should tell them when they are mature. Whey they can understand the parents point of view. I also have a surrogate child. I know the feeling. keep your hopes and faith high

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    Trisha
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    We always promote being honest with your children as we feel it creates a stronger bond between us and them. What has worked for us might not work for everyone. This is especially true for heterosexual Intended Parents. Gay IPs and heterosexual IPs have varying factors to consider when discussing surrogacy with their children. They will eventually learn that it takes a woman’s egg and a man’s sperm to create a baby. The fact that we’re both men made the decision to share certain details with our children easier. Although heterosexual Surrogacy Journeys bare different emotional implications than homosexual Surrogacy Journeys, I still feel it’s best to be honest with your child. I’ve gathered valuable insight from our heterosexual IP clients on whether they share sensitive details with their Surro-children, and how they do it. Many of our heterosexual IPs are, in fact, very open about their children’s origins. They enjoy telling their children just how badly they wanted them and how hard they had to try. They stress how special their child is and how lucky they are to have them. My personal experience with explaining Surrogacy to my children has been natural. My opinion regarding this very sensitive topic is just that- an opinion. It is neither right or wrong; it’s simply what’s worked for Adam and me. If you do choose to tell your children that they are Surro-babies, tell them how much you wanted them. Tell them how hard you worked to have them. Let them know how loved they are. Regardless of your parenting method, remember that Everyone Deserves a Family no matter the circumstance.

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    Angie
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    I’m always for the truth. And my child will know it for sure.)

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    Andy
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    Oh, it’s really very hot and important question! Firstly we do everything in order to have children and even use ART help. And after that we start thing about whether to say about this fact to child or no? )) And of course if we decide to say it the next question arise “How to do it correctly?”. I understand it very well as I have already used IVF and maybe will use surrogacy in future. So, must it be said to a child such information, when to do it and what words to choose in order to explain what IVF is? To say the truth I talked about it with my psychologist. She says firstly it depends on whether parents want or do not want to tell the child about IVF, surrogacy or egg donor. Also I agree that parents need to remember that such talks should always be appropriate for the age of the child.

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    Andy
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    I used donor eggs during my in vitro fertilization procedure. And being in medical center I communicated with patients there. They are all from abroad, from different countries and had such programs as surrogacy, egg donation IVF. Once waiting for the doctor, we start talking about donors, egg donors with one of patients. And she even raiseв the question whether to show child the donor whose eggs were used! I know that in some countries it’s possible. Sometimes people use biomaterial of friends or relatives. But I used donor eggs of the Ukrainian woman. And you know in Ukraine, and in biotexcom center where I was, it’s impossible. Donation is anonymous there and it’s impossible to receive any contact information of donor. Moreover we saw her only in the base of donors in order to choose an appropriate donor for our program. Thus I realize that I will be able only to say that I used IVF with donor eggs. Patients do not see up-close and personal donor whose cells were used in the program. And they also can’t communicate with her personally. The main thing is the high quality of the eggs, the health and the absence of any physical and psychological deviations from the donor. Therefore, even with the my great desire it’s impossible to introduce the child to a woman who has made a significant contribution to his appearance)

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