To me it was about accepting the idea itself. Knowing that you will never have a baby of your own kills. My husband convinced me that a parent is one who raise a child not the one whose eggs are used or who gives birth. It’s tough indeed but I accepted this. An egg donor database of fertility center we chose for treatment was huge. More than 400 young women, although I’m not sure they all are available for stimulation. I was assured all of them are healthy and gave birth to at least one child with no complications. The task was to choose appearance and this wasn’t easy. Each egg donor profile also has video interview, this was helpful. I then decided that she must be well educated and have a nice voice. The one we chose was available for stimulation and later gave eggs that resulted in good embies. I can’t be happier