Children can be so sensitive. She maybe does not feel in place while at her moms place. Maybe the place is crowded. When she is in your place you treat her differently. She is alone. Maybe she likes it that way. Now tat the environment is different. With the many other children her mother has. She might be feeling out of place. If she acts well with you. Then her mother should be the one treating her bad. Or if not. Then she just prefers your company more. That is why she acts well with you. It might be a message she is sending to you guys. That she wants to spend more time with you than the mother. If she could be schooling from your place. She just wants attention that she is not getting from her mother. Otherwise I hope the psychiatrist can help.

Hello there dear friend. How are you doing? I hope that things are fine at your end. I believe everything has an explanation. A rational explanation to be exact. In your case I guess the explanation is very simple. Thing about it this way… When and why do you get angry? Start from yourself, it’s usually when things don’t go the way you want them to. Like for example at work or at the gym or wherever, doesn’t matter. You start screaming get mad and your behaviour changes a little right? Well no that much because you’re a grown up, you understand stuff. So you manage your anger and go on with your day. In your daughters case she is young. When she is at her mommies, the other children sometimes don’t listen to her… Mommy is busy and sometimes forgets about her. So this is probably just her being angry. This is just my opinion though. Nothing professional lays behind this. God bless you!

Around the age of 4 to 6, all children develop a sense of self and self-efficacy. From the perspective of the parents, children that were easy to direct before now become contrary. At the same time a child that age cannot express her frustrations well without resorting to tears or. If the frustration is bad, a tantrum. Around the age of 6 or 7, children develop the ability to understand and care about another person’s wishes and needs. Then the “unwarranted” and extreme outbursts stop. All of this is a process and not something that happens overnight, so of course your child’s behavior will slowly get “better” in the coming months. So, first of all don’t expect your child to be able to suppress her frustration and discuss her wants with you like an adult would. The tantrum is okay, it is her way of saying: I really don’t want this. Just as you expect other people to accept that you don’t agree with them. Accept that your child does not agree with you. She just cannot express it in a civilized manner. Second, following from your understanding that your child’s behavior is totally normal and in tune with her current developmental abilities. There is no need to get upset about your child’s emotional outburst. Distance yourself from it. It is not you, who is frustrated and gets upset, but your child. Just as you would be expected to deal with an adult saying that he does not like what you want of him and feels sad or angered. You must be able to accept that your child is of a different opinion.