I need your opinion
November 13, 2017 at 7:49 pm #593
I am a mother of 4 children. With this number of children one learns a lot. So my 3rd born is 7 years. She is giving me a lot of pressure. I think most of you who are mothers can understand this. Baby girls tend to be picky. They want things to go their way. I have other 3 children to look after too. So I cannot give her my 100% attention. Recently she has been pulling some tantrums. She does not want her name. She wants to be called Mary. If only she knew how much I hate that name. I feel Mary is such an ancient name. Which were used in the ancient times. During Jesus time. Surely, How can I even call her that name. I told her to pick another name I might reconsider. But she does not want to. She still insist with the name Mary. What do you think guys? Should I give in and use that name as her baptismal name? Now that she has insisted. Her current name is Beverly.November 13, 2017 at 8:41 pm #596
Beverly is such a cute name. 7 years is still young. She does not fully understand herself right now. I don’t think if you should give in to what she wants. It might be a mistake she is making. Then years later she also regrets that name. Will you give her the chance to change it again? You are the mother an have the right to chose. That means it is you to decide what her name will be. You should just stand firm that there is no name change. Or you can call her that name. Just to satisfy her ego. But do not let it be her baptismal name. I know she will later regret that. Maybe she wants that name just because she has a friend with that name at school. And she likes the girl. So she think having her name will make her like Mary. This is just a child mentality. That is why I am telling you not to give in into her tantrums. With time she will outgrow that and be satisfied with her current name.March 16, 2018 at 8:36 pm #1149
Hello dear friend. I do not have children yet but I do have several small nephews.
I think you should not take your daughter’s request so seriously. After all, it’s a little girl who wants your attention for a moment. Maybe it’s a whim more that will happen in a few weeks. She has a beautiful name. You should talk to her and explain to her why you chose that name. What it means to you So she can understand a little.
Also you could do some activity with her once every two weeks so she feels like you have a space for her. So the two can share a little more and she will not feel jealous of her other brothers. That will avoid problems with your children in the future.
It should not be easy to be the mother of 4 children but I know that you will do it excellently. I wish you luck.March 18, 2018 at 8:34 am #1165
I think your daughter is just going through the normal children’s tantrums. When your kid’s in the middle of a tantrum, it can be tough to keep yourself from having your own meltdown, too. Your preschooler can finally use words to tell you what she needs or wants, but that doesn’t mean her tantrums are over. She’s still learning how to handle her emotions, so a minor disagreement can quickly turn into a full-on fit. Because your child also values her growing independence, needing your help can be frustrating. She may lose it when she tries a challenging task. Their communication is limited, yet they have all these thoughts and wishes and needs to be met. So try to understand the reason why she wants that name and check if 20 years from now it will still be reasonable. If not, then do not use that name.March 18, 2018 at 6:26 pm #1199
Hi there. How are you and your children doing? I hope you all are great. I am really glad to hear about your family. I think it is normal for children to behave this way. seven years is not much. I know children they can sometimes be little hard to handle. However, everything is best done with love and care. Good Luck to you. I wish to hear more from you.
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