Surrogacy and expenses
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March 26, 2018 at 6:23 pm #1424AnonymousInactive
Hello, ladies. Good to finally be a member of this forum. I am a happy mother of a beautiful two-year-old baby girl. She was conceived through surrogacy. I wanted to tell you all something very important. I’ve been seeing people complain that surrogate mothers charge too much. See, I feel bad that this happens. You have to give something to get something and that woman is getting you the gift of a child! She will bear the emotional and physical pain for your happiness, so doesn’t she at least deserve that you pay for her care as long as she is carrying your baby?March 27, 2018 at 10:55 am #1436VictoriaParticipant
Hi there! I think this is a great thread. Many times we’re so focused on ourselves and our happiness. We forget about the others. It’s beautiful what surrogates do. They are so selfless in this decision of theirs. There’s definitely a lot of heartache, stress, and sickness involved in pregnancy. And to give the baby away at the end! It’s totally justified for them to charge a lot. I went with surrogacy to get my baby too. However, I chose a clinic rather than privately doing it. It was so relieving because the clinic was amazing. So careful and thoughtful. I hope everyone going through this has a great experience. Fingers crossed for you! Good luck!March 27, 2018 at 11:30 am #1438AnonymousInactive
Hey Gina. You are so right. You post this thread. When any lady read this who is already complaining about expenses. She will think that you are right somewhere. Surrogate is going to carry our child for the whole 9 months. This is not as easy as we say. And surrogate is also taking risk with her life. No body knows what happens with her during delivery. What positive and negative impacts she will bear on her health during and after pregnancy. So people should think about them as well. Don’t consider your happiness only. Rather live for the sake of other’s happiness as well. If you want happiness for your whole life in the form of a baby. Then this small amount of payment does not matter at all.March 27, 2018 at 12:38 pm #1440Joanne SilviaParticipant
Hello Gina. How are you? Hope you’re well. Congratulations on having a successful surrogacy procedure. Hope you’re delighted. I’m sure you’re over the moon with the way it has gone. As for the issue you raise, I agree completely. Money is a problem, no doubt. It doesn’t come easy. However, for hopefuls who just cannot conceive naturally, surrogacy should be treated as a blessing. I’m sure they’ll have a different point of view after having that baby in their hands. Giving someone you’ve kept inside of yourself for nine months is huge. They should be treated as heroes. Thank you for talking about this problem. Have a good day!March 27, 2018 at 3:31 pm #1445AkiraParticipant
Surrogacy is very expensive in some countries.
We had our from Ukraine.Where it is some how lower than other countries expense.
We moved from Japan to Europe for surrogacy. Surrogacy is totally ban in Japan.So we moved to Europe.I had hysterectomy cancer and as a result i’m infertile.But my husband never left my side.He asked me to go for surrogacy.And we moved to Europe only for it.But in Europe we were not much satisfied with the clinics,And some one told me to go for Ukraine there are many good clinics there.So we moved to Ukraine.Now we are having twin daughters from the help of the clinic.The surrogate mother is too kind with us.God gave us two daughters as a gift to our patience, We are very thankful to everyone.
If someone has some experience in Surrogacy let us know.
Share your story with us too.March 27, 2018 at 3:55 pm #1446monikaParticipant
Hey, Gina welcome to this forum. Yes, you’re definitely right. We cant be unreasonable about this whole idea. As a surrogate is giving birth to our baby. So that is something that we can’t even argue on. However, I do believe that some of them can exploit as well. The reason why it is important to always have this middle person. Which is the agency as they help you find a healthy surrogate. Meaning that she has not had any past illnesses. This is important for her and the babies safety. The clinic I recently came to know about I believe one of the reasons for choosing them was this. Also, they make sure that once the surrogate is pregnant she is doing okay. They call her for regular checkups. They also make sure that she is having a healthy diet. I believe all these things are important to maintain an error-free process.March 27, 2018 at 3:58 pm #1447AnonymousInactive
So true dear. It really hurts when people say odd about surrogacy. Surrogate mothers are angels. They offer great services to the community. They bear the pain for others and don’t even demand high. Even a compensation is not enough to say thanks to them. May GOD bless them!March 27, 2018 at 4:58 pm #1450Felicia SazParticipant
Hey. Hope you are well. It is great that you brought it up. I think the people who say such things haven’t had a baby through surrogacy themselves. When I was choosing clinics, the most attractive thing about the clinic I went for was the fact that they offered me 100% guarantee of a baby. They were very affordable too. It seemed too good to be true for me. I went for it anyway. And it turned out, it was all true. My money became an investment. My son is the most precious thing in my life right now. No amount of money can be equal to that. I think every person who has had a baby this way understands this. It is very important for other people to understand this too. They are spreading negativity about this concept. It breaks my heart sometimes. This can stop the people who can’t have children normally from considering surrogacy for themselves.March 27, 2018 at 5:03 pm #1451riazoyerParticipant
I’m so happy you shared this. My husband and I are at 11 months now ttc for our first child with no luck still. We have been keeping up hope and as far as I know have no reason to believe we can’t have kids but it is a very very emotionally draining feeling that so few people can understand because its not like you can talk about it openly. Its a very isolating struggle, especially when all your friends are getting pregnant around you and always asking when you will be. Maybe 11 is our lucky number too.Surrogacy is quite expensive indifferent countries but it’s reasonanle in Ukraine.There are few clinics there .Go check them out.I’m sure everthing will workout for you.March 27, 2018 at 7:43 pm #1466MeeParticipant
Oh dear, that’s really true. I agree with you that a surrogate mother deserves a lot. Surrogate is the woman who bears pain for our happiness and need, so instead of accusing her we must give her respect for what she did or do for intended parents. Moreover, I won’t agrees with the people who said surrogates charged a lot. If you are having surrogacy through proper infertility clinics the one I used to consult in Europe they clarify all the terms and conditions timely and you should not have to worry later. Anyways respect the one who deserves more than this.March 28, 2018 at 3:22 pm #1483kim01Participant
Hey! this is a great question. I want to share a story of mine. I was unable to conceive even for 5 years. I was depressed and confused that why this is happening. So I chose surrogacy for sake of husband happiness. We went for it to a clinic. I met many surrogates. I asked them that why you chose this. One of them said she need money for house renovation. It means that surrogates are not dying of hunger. Another surrogate beautifully answered my question that she wants that every couple feels the happiness that I felt when my daughter was born. This is not about money always. We are lost in our happiness that we dont care about anyone. If we have to pay for it doesn’t matter because they are carrying our babies.March 28, 2018 at 7:16 pm #1497chicagoParticipant
Gina Harris happy to see you here as a member. Wow, that’s good. Accept my heartiest congratulations for your successful surrogacy. you are thinking in a good way. We can’t compensate her efforts. She bears much pain to carry your baby. but some notes of currency are not enough penalty. We should give them a special package that may reduce her emotional feelings. Think about it.March 29, 2018 at 11:18 am #1501AnonymousInactive
happy to hear about your success story of surrogacy.
surrogacy is the most common method or way of having a child.
i was also very stressed during my first marriage as i had many complications while getting pregnant.
I conceived for three times but always resulted in miscarriage.
I’m 43 years old now.
Now i am married again and me and my husband are thinking of having of having a baby.
I guess keeping in aspects like me a woman should probably go for surrogacy method to have a baby..
We are looking for a good clinic to support us and guide us through the whole process.
BioTexCom is a good clinic with very good reputation. MAy be you can have a look at it.
We researched about a number of clinics over the web and found many good clinics as well.
You should also do research about surrogacy related clinics as well over the web and look for the best clinic.
Surrogacy is the safe and the most good method of having a baby for women like us.
Wish you a very good luck.March 29, 2018 at 7:04 pm #1526hailey johnsonParticipant
Hello there! I hope you are doing fine. This is such a good post. I know there are many stereotypes which consider surrogacy to be way more expensive. They don’t see the sacrifice those surrogate do. I had my baby boy through surrogacy. I can’t imagine what my life would be if surrogacy didn’t exist. Lots of love. Take care. Cheers!March 30, 2018 at 10:29 am #1537NINAParticipant
Hello dear! Good to see you here on this platform. I believe you are doing good in your life.Being infertile should not cause you to lose hope of living. Science has made a great research that can help people in this situation. Surrogacy is the solution. This process has given happiness to many people. They now have their own babies. My colleague who is a good friend of mine is also infertile is now a mother of a child. She went to a clinic in Ukraine. They have the best facilities and doctors. She was very much satisfied with them. She has now all the happiness in the world.I will pray for you that you get the right choice for you. Best of luck.
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