Afraid To Go For Surrogacy
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March 31, 2018 at 6:21 pm #1609StormiParticipant
I joined this site earlier this year after me and my partner started discussing trying. A month after having my implant removed I started getting odd symptoms, And without going into too much detail fast forward to August and I was diagnosed with cervical cancer. I’m booked in for a radical hysterectomy with ovary preservation at the end of this month. So I will never be able to carry my own child which breaks my heart.
I had a fertility preservation meeting recently and she didn’t at all sound positive about the possibility of surrogacy. So I would love to hear some successes and the process from first hand experience. As I’m feeling pretty deflated about my chances of ever having my own child. I know I may sound a pessimist right now. But honestly that procedure is expensive and would like some encouragement before I go on. I will hear out all your stories. So do ne afraid to tell me just because it turned out negative.March 31, 2018 at 8:22 pm #1616EliParticipant
i wish you all the best! Dont give up!April 1, 2018 at 7:02 am #1617Joanne SilviaParticipant
Hey Stormi. I hope you’re doing well. I’m really sorry to hear about your loss. It’s an awful situation to be in. Always sounding like an optimist doesn’t help either. It’s good that you’re being realistic. I had a similar experience. My husband and I had been TTC for many years. When we finally got pregnant, I had a miscarriage. My misfortune didn’t stop there. It kept happening. I had even more miscarriages in the coming years. I have finally, now, decided to go for surrogacy. You should really consider it. I think it’s a great and very safe way to go. Good luck!April 1, 2018 at 2:44 pm #1622Felicia SazParticipant
Ever since I thought of going for surrogacy to have my first baby, everything started falling into place for me. I’m not even exaggerating. I have spent some really frustrating years. My husband and I tried conceiving a baby for a while and nothing was happening. Turned out we both had a problem and that caused us to never be able to have children of our own. Surrogacy came as a blessing to me. When I met with the doctors in Ukraine, I made up my mind. Everything there was perfect and they handled my situation very efficiently. It felt like a burden taken off my shoulders. Like someone else started taking care of your problem and you are free. It felt great. Of course, I had my ups and downs during the time. But at the end, I got the most precious thing I will ever have. You should totally go for it.April 1, 2018 at 3:40 pm #1625AkiraParticipant
i had hysterectomy cancer as a result i was infertile for life.
So we moved to europe to find good clinics regarding surrogacy.
Actually we were from Japan.But Japan has banned Surrogacy.So we moved to Europe insearch of surrogacy.So that we can have our own kids.
We consulted a number of clinics but my husband wasn’t satisfied by the clinics.Now we have moved to Ukraine to find good clinics.
We found a clinic here which is very good.We are in contact with the clinic soon we will have an appointment with them.
Please share your experience with me.April 1, 2018 at 3:52 pm #1627CatherineParticipant
It is great that you have chosen an alternative for your infertile life.Now the days are not far when you will be a proud mother. This is going to be a proud moment for you. You will have everything that you were longing for. Right now you are scared of the surrogacy. This is what I call the fear of the unknown. Such fears are natural. sometimes the past losses are very painful. They lead to uncertainty and hopelessness. When the past has a great deal of disappointment you visualize everything in the light of those happenings. In fact, this is not right. It hinders the way to the happiness in the future. You need to come out of all this. Recovery is very important. Survival exists only for those who are ready to fight with their odds. Take surrogacy as a normal pregnancy. There is nothing to get worried about. Surrogacy has gifted several parents with the ultimate blessing of the parenthood.April 1, 2018 at 4:31 pm #1630riazoyerParticipant
Relax and visit the best doctor in your area. I am sure if you keep trying you will get the results. And do not worry too much just take care of your health. And if you really want a child in your life then my suggestion to you is go for surrogacy process. This is the best process for those who faced infertility issues in their life after miss carriages. I am hoping for the best as i used to done much adoption in my life and after this i faced so many infertility issues.April 1, 2018 at 6:41 pm #1633hailey johnsonParticipant
This is totally like my story. I really feel for you. We too struggled to get pregnant. There was a time when I had lost all hope to become a mother. My husband used to console me with saying that we don’t really need a child. He always used to say we are enough for each other. I knew he was just trying to console me. I had two consecutive MCs. We then started exploring other options. We soon discovered surrogacy. It was quite a difficult decision. Nevertheless, we took our chances. Now I am blessed with a beautiful baby boy. I wish you to get blessed with children. Best of luck. Love!April 2, 2018 at 4:37 am #1649CrystalMacyParticipant
Hello dear.Feeling sorry to hear all about you.I knew you are being afraid and worried too.Dear, life does not stop at any moment.We had better options and methods.Just the thing you had to required to find the different ways.With the positive thoughts and hopes, you will do everything better and normal.I am not the same condition as like you are talking but I had also this issue.Dear, don’t be so much afraid and negative.Be strong and think positive.I had this procedure in a very reasonable clinic at the place of Ukraine.You must have to visit that place.I am sure you have to get a better result.It is a great blessing for all the intended parents.It felt awesome after holding the baby in my arms.Sending you baby dust and wishes.April 2, 2018 at 7:35 am #1650Sasha JamesParticipant
Hey there Stormi. How are you doing? I hope you are doing great. I am really sorry to hear about your infertility. I know how hard it must be. I know this because I have been through it. It really breaks you in every way. Know that you cant conceive now it kills you. I have had a hysterectomy once too. It was devastating. However, I didn’t lose hope. I went for surrogacy. Glad I made the decision. It really made me happy. I am a mother of two twins now. wish you good luck. Take care.April 2, 2018 at 3:22 pm #1657kim01Participant
Hey. I am so sorry for you. Really infertility takes a lot out of a woman. Its so hard overcome this loss. But it’s not the end of the world. I had 3 miscarriages in a row. I was upset and depressed. After that, I and my husband tried again but was not able to conceive. I was diagnosed with uterine polyps and in that, they told me that I am not able to maintain pregnancy. It was hard but I moved on. I made my mind for surrogacy. I chose it for many reasons. It is a successful process and its success rate is more than IVF. I chose it because it has no side effect. The most important thing that should keep in mind is that one should choose a reputed and reliable clinic. I chose one of the best clinics and they provided me with the best surrogate. I was so happy and now I have a baby.April 2, 2018 at 8:38 pm #1669AnonymousInactive
Hi @Stormi, sad to know your story. Becoming a mother is the biggest desire of every woman. But losing hope and will is not the solution to any problem. Can you please share some details about your meeting? I don’t think that surrogacy is not so reliable. Many infertile couples are taking advantage of it and I’m sure that you’ll enjoy it too. I will pray for your success!April 3, 2018 at 4:40 pm #1678ezabelParticipant
I have no story to tell you yet about me. As I am on this road and waiting for this journey to start
But I would love to encourage you for this. If you are going for this treatment than you are going great!
There might be something precious waiting for you. This might be the end of your wait.
This is what I often say to myself when I feel afraid about surrogacy.
I have heard so many success stories regarding this procedure that each day it, even more, encourages me to get this done.
Yes, this is a costly affair. But I believe! If you go wiser with your selections regarding clinics and places, where you can get this done than it would be much easier.
Go wiser Go tougher.April 3, 2018 at 5:58 pm #1685Jess blingParticipant
Why didn’t tour doctor sounded positive? Surrogacy is the best thing happened to us. Anyone can have a baby via surrogacy. I repeat anyone!I get it that it can be expensive. There are places where it is affordable too. Multiple tries are also offered. The clinic I visited had this facility. I was so happy I opted for it. The legal issues were taken care of. The surrogate was such an amazing lady.The staff there was caring and helpful. Our accommodation was covered in the cost too. It was the best experience so far. You should totally go for it.April 4, 2018 at 6:16 pm #1695ainaParticipant
Hello you lady, it is really a killing comment that you are infertile. It is none of your personal faults. But these words are killing. Feel so sad for you. it is a big desire of every woman to be a mom. You should never give up. consult a good doctor as well \nd think about surrogacy. Wish you good luck
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