The goal of early ‘telling’ is that a child should grow up ‘never knowing a time when they didn’t know’ about their origins by donor conception. In practical terms this means starting the process of sharing information with your child from under the age of five. Some people like to start talking with their baby chatting about the donor while changing a nappy is popular. What is worth taking into account in deciding when to begin the story is that the earlier you start the easier it is likely to be for you both. It gives you a chance to practice the language at a time when your baby is not really understanding the words but simply enjoying being talked to. It also means that once you have started you always have something to build on. If for some reason it has not been possible to start early. Then ‘telling’ is possible at any age. It simply takes more preparation and has to be undertaken as an event rather than a process.

Wise words! I too believe that children should know where they come from. And should never feel ashamed of the fact that they eggs were donors. Its just the pain and the struggle you did to have them in your life. And they will grow up respecting all such treatments. They would know the importance of this procedure. And would keep them far away from all the negative vibes that society creates about such procedure.

When I was diagnosed with a poor ovarian reserve with low amh level and high fsh levels. I was told by the doctors that IVF wouldn’t work for me. Even if it did work it would lead to MC. Therefore, the doctors suggested that I should opt for IVF or surrogacy with DE. It was an extremely difficult decision to make. I had never thought that I would also have to make this kind of a decision. My husband was not really that willing to opt for it. However, we also wanted to have children of our own. Since the day we decided to opt for De. We told ourselves that we will tell our children from the start. I think children have the right to know about everything. When the clinic gave us the access to their database and we chose the DE. I saved all her information so that the child could later even go through that. I don’t want there to be any confusion. Loved your post.

Tifanny you have chosen a sensitive topic. I always think about it. but never have enough courage to discuss it with those who suffered from this. I never reached this stage yet. But want to know about it in depth. Should we tell our children that who’s their real parents? I think they shouldn’t bother these things. because you bring them up and give them a facilitated life with good education career. Yeah, blood relation never dies. If they come to know about them then they shouldn’t make their family. Surrogate mother shouldn’t contact him ever. If they do so their intended parents will die without going through natural death. Yeah, this is the right strategy. Prepare yourself with all question that they might ask you. but never lie to them about their birth. If they acknowledge this story from some other person then their trust will be broken.

I hope that couples who are infertile opt for it more. I have read a lot of positive comments regarding this clinic. I have been searching a lot about them. They have a high success rate. The doctors are also experienced and professionals. I think that is amazing. I’ve already submitted my application to become an egg donor. Specialists at the center have been exceptionally pleasant to me, but when I asked them what are the risks, side effects, complications, etc. involved in egg donation, Assisted conception will definitely be useful for you, don’t worry. I’ve got some good news for you. The clinic from where I had my surrogacy done, is coming to the UK on the 18th and 19th of August. You can avail this chance and get a free consultation there. You don’t have to fly to Ukraine anymore now. They’ll provide you with every information and you can even sign a contract there if they satisfy you. So, stop thinking and register for that. I wish all your worries go away. Good luck!

Well, yes! I agree with it. It’s their right to know! Well, but still I think it’s better not to share it with them, it might indulge them in some kind of problem or lack in confidence I believe. So, yes! That can also create a complex in them. So, better wouldn’t. I’m having my process later this month abroad. I’d not share it with my child. So, yeah! That’s my opinion. I’m having it via surrogacy. So, anyway! I hope you understand.