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  • #679
    Meredith Rods
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    Hello everyone. I am Meredith and I am a new member of the team. I read your stories and I would like to share my personal story with you.First of all, let me tell you that I am 33 years old and my man is 30, and we started having a baby for the last year. After long-term contraceptive pills, I stopped them in last April considering of our desire for a baby. Since then, my cycle has gone mad. I visited my gynecologist in September and everything was fine! All this time, however, since June we are trying for a baby but not constantly. I can not count my fertile days. I always set up as a standard 28-day cycle that I had first started contraception and we are focusing our efforts from the 10th to the 11th day of the cycle and beyond, but so far … nothing at all. I have begun to worry terribly. I’m disappointed and embarrassed whenever I get my period and even more when I get a smaller circle. My doctor is reassuring and tells me to try at least one year and then start worrying. But I have entered a vicious circle in my mind and every time we make love with my partner I think if this is my lucky time.We often make love to my partner and this still makes me guilty since I always think of that and not having fun with my time.I would like your views because I think surely most of you have felt that way at some point …

    #724
    Sandy
    Participant

    Hello, Meredith. Welcome to the forum. I am also a newbie here on the forum, and have been loving it so far. SO, you are 33, which is a good age to get pregnant. I see you had been on the pills till April. As you might, or not know, pills mess up your cycles. The same happened to me last year. I had been on contraceptives for months, and then I ended up with irregular ovulation. Yes, you sure can try for a year. That is what I think you should do. Correcting your cycles will surely take time. The process will also call for patience. What meds have you been prescribed. I think mostly you are put on some meds.

    I know how you might feel right now! Just try to take it easy. It is very easy to feel down during TTC. I had been trying for 4 years with no result. So, I feel like I need to go with IVF. However, in your case, you should keep trying. I wish you the best of luck.

    #760
    Milan
    Participant

    You should stop worrying and start enjoying life. If you keep ion thinking about having a child. Then you will not enjoy what is already in your plate,. You have a loving partner. So you should be appreciative of that. I believe a child will cone at his or her own time. If you keep on thinking about a child it might end up stressing you. And that’s not good for your health. Considering that you are looking for a child. Be optimistic and I believe a child might come your way. if the doctor told you not to worry. Then why are you worrying yourself out that much? You body might take long to adjust from taking the pills. So maybe it might take linger than you expected to be pregnant. So at least you should wait for at least a year. Just like what the doctor told you. I believe your child will come soon. A time even you were not anticipating. It always happens that way. If you ask me, that is.

    #817
    Tifanny
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    There was a time that I felt that way too. It just consumes you. You no longer enjoy sex. You feel like this time round I should be pregnant. Bit you need to relax. You are just from using pills. That means your body may take long to adjust. This differs from one person to another. So on average you should give it a year. Then thereafter you can start seeking for help. You might be worrying of things that are not that serious after all. Calm down and focus to get yourself first. When your cycle returns back to normal. Then is when you can start the timed sex. But for now your body is still trying to adjust. And if you have irregular cycle. That means you should take longer to study them. Then half of those days will be your ovulation period. You then start the wait. But for the time being. Let TTC consume you that much. Enjoy sex as they way you used to at first.

    #971
    Stormi
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    You should let lose and try to enjoy life. First of all you are just from using pills. After leaving the medication you should expect some changes. This is your body trying to adopt to the real you. It might even take long taht you thought. Some irregular periods and staffs. Bur with time things will go back to normal. This is when your body has fully got control over your hormones. So when you start experiencing regular periods then is when you should start ttc. Some people tend to be so quick with their bodies. Yet all they need is to give the physical body some time. It is not even a year yet but you are worried. You could know that some of us here have gone over 5 years trying to be pregnant. But we never gave up. With time things will just pick up. Then you will be amazed at how fast things can change.

    #1502
    Akira
    Participant

    Don’t feel this way you are not responsible for your infertility.
    Read my story of infertility too.We moved from Japan to Europe for surrogacy. Surrogacy is totally ban in Japan.So we moved to Europe.I had hysterectomy cancer and as a result i’m infertile.But my husband never left my side.He asked me to go for surrogacy.And we moved to Europe only for it.But in Europe we were not much satisfied with the clinics,And some one told me to go for Ukraine there are many good clinics there.So we moved to Ukraine.Now we are having twin daughters from the help of the clinic.The surrogate mother is too kind with us.God gave us two daughters as a gift to our patience, We are very thankful to everyone.
    If someone has some experience in Surrogacy let us know.
    Share your story with us too.

    #1504
    Joanne Silvia
    Participant

    Hello Meredith. How are you? I hope you’re doing a good job. Conceiving is a tough task. It takes a lot of time. However, at the same time, it also takes a lot of patience. I’d suggest you take the advice of your doctor. There’s no need to worry. If you feel a little uncomfortable about all this, you can always talk to DH. He’ll understand, I’m sure. Try different techniques. Be a little more regular with your dates. Don’t waste your ovulating days. Good luck! Hopefully, there’s lots of baby dust on the way for you.

    #1507
    Felicia Saz
    Participant

    Hello, Meredith. How are you doing? I think your doctor is right. Rushing in situations like these is not a very good idea. I think you should keep trying for you while. You can ask your doctor to give you fertility meds during this. Maybe that could work for you. If you still can’t conceive with it, you can try other options. Maybe IVF could work for you. It is being done in Ukraine at a very affordable price nowadays. Their services are amazing. I went to Ukraine to have a baby through surrogacy. I was so satisfied with them. They gave me the most precious thing I have in my life right now. I really want your struggle to end. Trust me, I understand what you are going through. Just stay hopeful. Good luck.

    #1770
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    Hi Meredith, so sad to learn about your loss. this incident has really filled me with deep grief. Dear, these are the laws of nature. You have to obey them and accept the truth. You should be enough strong to support yourself and your husband too. you can either give TTC another chance or may go for surrogacy instead. I hope it will work for you. best of luck!

    #1774
    Jess bling
    Participant

    Honey, your doctor is right. At least wait for a year before getting upset. These things do take time. It depends on an individual.Some couples can conceive immediately. While others have to wait years.I’d suggest just wait for few more months. Meanwhile, keep track of your ovulation days. Try on each ovulation day.You never know when luck hits you. If after few months you can not get pregnant still. Then go for alternatives, consult another doctor regarding fertility. Consider his advice. There is nothing to worry about when we have so many amazing treatments like IVF and surrogacy that can help you out. Loads of positivity and baby dust your way.

    #1777
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    Hi Meredith, it’s completely all right. No one here will judge you for that. You’re right. We;ve all been at that place some time. We do usually blame ourselves for not conceiving. But trust me, it’s not your fault. Stress can make TTC even harder. I had surrogacy when I couldn’t go on. You also have options if TTC is becoming too difficult. And you have no reason to be guilty.

    #1795
    Trisha
    Participant

    There are possible early warning signs of infertility. There are also risk factors. Things that make it more likely you may have difficulty getting pregnant. While many couples will have no signs or symptoms. If you do have any, you should talk to your doctor sooner than later. Infertility is defined by how long you have been trying to conceive unsuccessfully. If you have been trying for one year without success—or for six months. If you’re age 35 or older—then your doctor will diagnose you as being infertile. If you don’t get pregnant after one year of trying. You should see your doctor. If you’re 35 years old or older. Then you should see your doctor after six months of trying. However, what if you have a possible sign of infertility before the one-year mark? What if you’re at risk for infertility? In that case, talk to your doctor now. Your doctor can run some basic fertility tests. If everything comes back normal. You can continue trying on your own for a while longer. However, if there is a problem, you will have caught it much sooner. And your odds of successful fertility treatment will be higher.

    #1853
    chicago
    Participant

    Meredith Rods welcome to this world. We warmly welcome you. you have done best to join this group. We will try our best to facilitate you with our best answers that will suit you most. Now I realized what you want to say. Don’t worry about it. it’s a reality. It’s not only happened to you. it is the story of everyone in this world. You know where we are making mistakes? We make ourselves disturb just to think about the worries and tensions of our future. We don’t bother our present work. We love to live in future. In the thoughts of future, we lost our present. Then after that, we memorize those moments. we say aww those moments I missed.

    #2049
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    I’m 43 i can’t have a baby from my own womb now.
    As i’m going to be married again.My husband will definitely want a baby from me.But i know all the complications of getting pregnant as i previously had many complications while getting pregnant.
    So i decided to go for surrogacy.
    I also had contacted a clinic too.
    Soon they will issue my dates of meeting with them.
    I’m so happy that finally i’ll have a baby.

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