Help a Friend
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March 31, 2018 at 6:39 pm #1613StormiParticipant
My friend just sent me this text and she needs help. “I’m a stay at home mum to the kids. But I’m also a trained primary school teacher. I am currently looking into being a surrogate for my very close friend of 30 years, called Iona. She is coming up for 36. Has been married to her husband for 7 years. He’s 34, and they have a son, who is also 4. Due to various reasons, Iona had to have a full hysterectomy shortly after the birth of her son. But because they had went through IVF to conceive their son. They still have frozen embryos. The issue is that they don’t live in the UK anymore. They live in the Netherlands. Where internal surrogacy is illegal for non-Dutch-citizens. But surrogacy abroad is legal for everyone. Which is why I offered in the first place. We’ve been speaking about this and researching it for about 7 months. And we think we understand the basics of the legal procedure on the Dutch side of things. But we still have no idea how it would work on the British side of things. As regards to being a surrogate for someone that lives abroad”. Can anyone help her please.April 1, 2018 at 11:16 am #1620VictoriaParticipant
This is so brave of your friend to do. It’s no small thing becoming a surrogate. It takes a lot of emotional strength and patience to get through this. I wish your friend all the best. I think it’d be amazing if she could get through with it. About the legalities, I suggest getting in contact with a lawyer. I would hate to offer the wrong advice based on my thoughts and assumptions.April 1, 2018 at 2:38 pm #1621Felicia SazParticipant
Hi, Stormi. How have you been? It is nice to hear from you again. I have to say your friend is a great person. This is so selfless of her. It is so beautiful how she wants to help Lona. Surrogacy is banned in a lot of countries. I don’t get the point of banning. They cause so much inconvenience. But we cannot really do something about it now, can we? I had my son through surrogacy from Ukraine. The reason behind going to Ukraine wasn’t the legality for me. I live in the USA and it is okay to go for surrogacy here. I went to Ukraine because surrogacy is affordable there unlike the USA. A normal person belonging to a middle class cannot even think of going for surrogacy here. Your friend should contact the good clinics they have in Ukraine and can go there for the procedure. Good luck to them.April 1, 2018 at 3:34 pm #1623Sasha JamesParticipant
Hey there Stormi. How are you doing? I hope you are doing great. I am really sorry that your friend has to go through it. You seem to care about her a lot. Its great to have such a good caring friend. Everyone deserves people like you. Being a surrogate is a great decision. It’s very selfless of you to do so. It warms my heart to think about it. I had surrogacy too. It’s wonderful. I really love it. I hope everything works out. I really wish they do. I wish you guys good luck. Take care.April 1, 2018 at 3:38 pm #1624AkiraParticipant
Japan has also banned surrogacy.So we have to move for surrogacy.We moved to Europe to find our heaven.
Surrogacy is ban in Japan.And i’m infertile due to some cancer reasons. So we moved to Europe to find surrogacy related clinics. We consulted many clinics in Europe. Than we came to know about clinics in Ukraine and we moved to Ukraine.
In ukraine we found a very good clinic.
Now we are having twins with the help of this clinic.The clinic gave us a very good surrogate mom.With the help of that mom we are having our two twin daughters.
We are so excited and happy.
Feedback and suggestions much admired.April 1, 2018 at 6:42 pm #1634hailey johnsonParticipant
This is totally like my story. I really feel for your friend. We too struggled to get pregnant. There was a time when I had lost all hope to become a mother. My husband used to console me with saying that we don’t really need a child. He always used to say we are enough for each other. I knew he was just trying to console me. I had two consecutive MCs. We then started exploring other options. We soon discovered surrogacy. It was quite a difficult decision. Nevertheless, we took our chances. Now I am blessed with a beautiful baby boy. I wish your friend too gets blessed with children. Best of luck. Love!April 1, 2018 at 11:38 pm #1637Shirley AkinParticipant
Surrogacy is not a big deal these days. It is helping many in need. It has a high success rate. Surrogacy is legal in some countries. It is also cheap there. There are some clinics who offer different packages. One can select the most suitable package.
I know all this because I visited a clinic for IVF. I had a great experience. There is got to know more about surrogacy too. I tried to tell you what I knew the most. I guess you must search for it on your own. You will gather a lot of information in no time. I hope everything goes fine for your friend. Lots of love to her. Baby dust on her. Much love.April 2, 2018 at 3:33 pm #1661AnonymousInactive
I guess surrogacy is the last option for me now to have baby of our own.
I have contacted many surrogacy related clinics and had gathered quite good info about surrogacy.
I also contacted some surrogates who are willing to cary our child in their womb.
I was pregnant thrice but had miscarriages every time.
I had many complications while getting pregnant.
During my first marriage i had no luck with having children although i conceived for 3 times.
I know today surrogacy is a common thing but i am worried about many aspects of having a baby via surrogacy.
I guess we will find a surrogate wth the help of clinic we are consulting.
I am married for second time i want to have baby of my own to live with.
But regarding and having a look at my previous pregnancy period i know its not a good idea to be pregnant again.
So i talked to my husband and have agreed him to go for surrogacy option.
Although clinic has many surrogates working with it but we want a good surrogate to carry our child.
If someone has some experience regarding surrogacy please do share your experience with us.April 4, 2018 at 5:30 pm #1692AnonymousInactive
There’s nothing wrong with that. Your friend is right to be concerned about legal stuff. It can be very worrisome to think about. However, there’s always a solution. Having surrogacy abroad is the best option. They can fly to Europe to get the procedure started. Some clinics even offer free care and accommodation for the period of pregnancy.April 4, 2018 at 6:36 pm #1700Jess blingParticipant
Aww, this is amazing. True friendship sounds exactly like this.Tell your friend to contact the clinic in Europe. They can guide her better. Maybe they can include a good clinic. A clinic that can take care of everything. I have heard some clinics in western Europe are great. They provide great assistance. Accommodation and food are also given.They take care of all the legalities.It will save you from the hassle. I am sure your issue will get resolved. Wish your friend the very best of luck. She is doing a great work. May God bless her for her selfless act.April 14, 2018 at 1:48 pm #1897TifannyParticipant
Intended parents sometimes travel abroad to have a child through a surrogate mother living there. This is not always a good option for the surrogate mother or the child. Intended parents who have a child through a surrogate mother abroad may have problems when they want to bring the child to the Netherlands. Some countries, but not the Netherlands, automatically recognize the intended parents as the child’s legal parents. But Dutch law states that a child’s biological mother is also its legal mother. So if the intended parents apply to a Dutch embassy for a Dutch passport for the child. The application will be rejected. This means that the child cannot travel to the Netherlands. For this reason, India now requires an official declaration from the government of the country of which the intended parents are nationals. The declaration must state that the child will be given that country’s nationality. Or at least will be permitted to enter the country (in this case, the Netherlands). However, the Dutch authorities do not issue declarations of this kind.May 14, 2018 at 3:10 pm #2115AnonymousInactive
Wish your friend very good luck. I was trying to conceive from last 10 years but had no luck. I went to best clinics for checkup but the doctors can’t find why i was unable to conceive. Firstly i had few cycles of IVF but i failed at IVF. Than i went for IUI and also failed at IUI. So a friend of mine told me about surrogacy. Now i am going for surrogacy. If you people have some suggestions for my plan please let me know.May 14, 2018 at 3:53 pm #2121riazoyerParticipant
This is so brave of your friend to do. It’s no small thing becoming a surrogate. It takes a lot of emotional strength and patience to get through this. I wish your friend all the best. I think it’d be amazing if she could get through with it. About the legalities, I suggest getting in contact with a lawyer. I would hate to offer the wrong advice based on my thoughts and assumptions.May 28, 2018 at 6:47 pm #2474ezabelParticipant
That’s so thoughtful of your friend. Feels great when I get to know such kindness. That’s what surrogacy is meant for. Surrogates have the best hearts. They could feel the pain of infertile individuals. And no matter where you are observing allegations. You would find a place where they welcome you to fulfill your dreams and family. I won’t suggest you anything. As that would be much early to say anything. She could ask any lawyer or select a place where she would find this legal. All the wishes to her.May 28, 2018 at 8:14 pm #2475EllenParticipant
Hello. I hope you are doing great. It is so good to hear from you again. You really seem to care about your friend. Friends like you are a blessing in today’s world. Surrogates are really selfless of themselves. They understand the pain of the infertile women. They must be appreciated for it. A few of the countries have banned surrogacy. I flew from Japan to Ukraine. It is banned here. We consulted the doctors there. Soon, I found the surrogate of our baby. I am so glad to have my own baby. Your friend must give it a visit. I hope her issues get resolved soon. Stay positive about her. Stand by her side. All the very best to her. Sending my prayers. Take care.
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