How does it feel being a surrogate?
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November 12, 2017 at 10:42 pm #572TrishaParticipant
This is my first time going to be a surrogate. My sister is having issue with holding a baby. So I want to do her this favor. Hold her pregnancy instead. She is not financially well off. So she feels surrogacy is expensive for her. In that case, I will be the surrogate. I do not want any money for that. She is my sister and what are sister for? She was telling me that she wanted to opt for adoption. But since she was young she always dreams of having her own babies. I want tio help her fulfil that dream. So I told her I will be her surrogate. She only needs to pay for the procedure. She told me that she can manage that. I just look for an affordable clinic. I hope I will find soon. This will be the first time being a surrogate. I do not know how it feels like. Anyone with an idea of how being a surrogate feels like? I will be so glad if I get people to share their stories in this topic.November 13, 2017 at 12:23 pm #573MilanParticipant
This is so cute of you. I wish I had a sister like you. Truly, sister are for each other. It is nice to hear that you are interested in helping your sister. More important that it has always been her dream. Well, being a surrogate is not a big task. If you are a mother already them you know how it feels like already. It is just the usual being pregnant for 9 months. Only that in this case the child is not yours. But you will pass through the same emotions and feelings. The morning sickness. Feeling tired more often and the stuffs. I personally am a profession surrogate. I have been a surrogate mother for 4 couples. So I can say it is not a hard task. Now that for you it is mot a job but it is because of love. I believe you will not have a hard time. Just live a healthy lifestyle and avoid drinking or smoking.November 14, 2017 at 10:33 am #605TifannyParticipant
I have never been a surrogate before. But I think the feeling is the same like being pregnant. If you are already a mother then you know how it feels. I am going to be a mother soon. And this is my first pregnancy. So I don’t really feel that bad. Although there are some sickness here and there. Feeling tired more often and much sleepy. It was a baby that I was waiting for so long so I can say I really don’t feel the pinch of pregnancy. This is because I am optimistic about my pregnancy. If at all pregnancies are like this then I can have another one. This means that I can be a surrogate. If a family member approached me for that. I can be of help. But I don’t think I can be a surrogate as a profession. Where by I charge people. I feel that is extortion. Anyway, people have different view and I cannot judge anyone.November 23, 2017 at 11:20 am #734SandyParticipant
Noreen, that is so selfless of you to do that. I love when relatives can jump in & help like that. As others have said it, surrogacy can be expensive for some people. So, it is incredibly amazing that you can do that for your sister. I haven’t experienced it first hand myself either. So, she is only gonna cover the costs of the clinic. I see you are doing good by looking for a cheaper clinic, right? I guess you should get online and start looking for them. While researching, be very careful. I have heard there are so many not so kosher websites that charge to access their files. I have had my colleague at work search for clinics, and she got a charge on her card. SO, you want to be super careful about that. I don’t want to scare you or anything. I am just giving you a heads-up. Also, make sure while accessing the sites, your browser says it is Secure. Anyways, good luck with your first experience as a surrogate.January 15, 2018 at 8:45 pm #981StormiParticipant
Most women have good pregnancies. But I would say [gestational carriers] have exceptional pregnancies. Where they really just feel great the whole time. It’s so worth it at the end that they don’t mind it. There are other, less altruistic reasons, why a woman might want to become a gestational carrier. Namely, the money. Surrogate moms are compensated anywhere from $15,000 to $60,000, depending on various factors such as the agency, location, agreement between the parents and the surrogate and how many babies the woman carries. On the other side. Your sister seeks out your help because they can’t have a baby the traditional way for all kinds of reasons. A woman, for example, might have a medical condition that makes pregnancy and childbirth life-threatening. So I can say that you are a hero and do hope that things will go well for you.March 21, 2018 at 4:52 am #1241AnonymousInactive
Good to hear that you are helping your sister.I am also looking for a surrogate mum.
I don’t know who it feels to be a one.But i guess they are good people who help others.
I am going for the surrogacy option as their is no other way to have a baby of my own.
I consulted a clinic regarding surrogacy they provided me a positive feedback.
There are very good clinics regarding surrogacy as i’m sharing my experience with all of you.
For now i have convinced my husband to go for surrogacy and he is ready too.
I contacted a clinic for surrogacy method and they responded very well to my questions.
I suggest you to go for this clinic and atleast you should contact them and share your problem with them so that they can propose a better solution for you.
As they suggested surrogacy option for us.
Now they are looking for a good woman for our baby who can carry our baby in her womb for 9 months.
They will find a good female with all clear tests so that we don’t have to face any issue later.March 21, 2018 at 2:51 pm #1248Felicia SazParticipant
Hey. I’ve never been a surrogate, so I don’t really know. I have a son though. I had him through surrogacy. I just want to say that you are going to do a great job for your sister. I have great respect for all the surrogates. What they do is incredibly selfless. My surrogate gave me the most precious thing I have in my life right now. I will forever be thankful for this.March 21, 2018 at 3:35 pm #1249monikaParticipant
I think you’re doing an amazing service in helping your sister out. I have a massive respect for all the women who become surrogate and help parents out. I myself have opted for surrogacy as I couldn’t conceive . The clinic I am going to is very particular about the surrogate. They make sure that the surrogate had no past illness or deaseas. As this is to ensure that both baby and her are safe. Once she is pregnant she called for regular check ups. I think that it is essentially important to take care of the surrogate. They also ensure that her health is perfect. So during th3 surrogacy process I would advise you to take care of your health. Make sure that you’re eating healthy and drinking lots of water. I recently even got to meet my surrogate match. It was indeed an exciting occasion for us. As I didn’t knew how it would go but was determined to meet her. We instantly had a connection and the fact that she understands me is soo great. Best of luck to you and your sister as well.March 21, 2018 at 4:23 pm #1250CatherineParticipant
It is great to hear that you want to take away the misery of your sister’s life. You will have your share of happiness very soon. Being a surrogate is not my personal experience, but I have felt the selfless desires when I had my surrogate baby. I always salute their love and affection for someone they don’t even know. In your case, it is a personal relationship but mostly they are strangers carrying strangers. A surrogate forgets about the problems of pregnancy and the pains of labor and delivery. She only remembers the happiness of the others. Surrogacy has gifted several couples with the happiness they had forgotten. A surrogate is like a treasure chest that has a whole bulk of happiness for someone who even misses smiling. It is a difficult thing to hold someone close to heart and then gives it to the parents. Surrogate mothers go through a situation similar to the normal pregnancy. This period of nine months knots her in a strong bond. It is difficult to separate but she knows she has done it for someone’s peace of heart. May you succeed in your efforts. I hope that once you start off with your loving journey you will keep posting.March 27, 2018 at 5:55 pm #1459AnonymousInactive
Hi. What you’re doing is so wonderful. Indeed, what are sisters for? I wish I had a sister, too. Then I wouldn’t have paid so much for having a surrogacy to get my baby. 😀 She’s a lucky girl to have a sister like you. I haven’t been a surrogate so I can’t say much. I just wanted to drop by and say that you’re such a good person. It is very rare to see someone being selfless these days. Keep smiling.March 27, 2018 at 7:52 pm #1467MeeParticipant
I have never gone through the journey of a surrogate, but I feel like it has the same feelings as getting pregnant with your own child. I am six months pregnant I can realise the moments and every pain. A surrogate mother is going through the same journey. It’s her highness she kept someone’s baby and bear it for the infertile couple. All the emotions and love is for her. You are among them too who is volunteering herself for her sister. Best of luck to you and intended parents.March 28, 2018 at 12:31 pm #1476CatherineParticipant
I always envy the courage and commitment of the surrogates. They are the selfless devoted people. Their major desire is to give the happiness to those who are looking for comfort in their life. They give the deprived parents the gift of child. They face the hardships and the problems associated with pregnancy. A surrogate is the light of hope in the darkness of infertility. It is really important to give them all the credit for making the disappointed happy and hopeful.March 28, 2018 at 1:54 pm #1478Joanne SilviaParticipant
Hello Noreen. Hope you’re well. This is such a great story. I feel so inspired. Faith in humanity, restored! You’re doing a tremendous job. I hope everyone gets a sister like you. My better half and I have been recently looking for a surrogate. It’s such a tough job to find one. On top of that, the expenditure is sky-rocketing. Which is why you’re definitely a hero to me. I’m sure it’s going to be a tough job. However, I’m also sure, you’ll nail it. Good luck to you. Good luck on the procedure!March 28, 2018 at 3:58 pm #1487AnonymousInactive
Hi @noreen, this is so wonderful. Such a great service that you are going to do for your sister. You have really fulfilled the right of being a sister. Angels like you are very precious to the human being. Humanity is still alive all due to you. Another reason for you that fanned me is that you are not taking any compensation. Surrogate mothers take the pain for others. Many people around d say annoying about surrogacy and surrogate mothers. But they should also see the other side of the image. What about those infertile ones? Don’t they have any right to enjoy the colors of life? Yet, surrogacy is the best solution. Your sister is very lucky as she has a dear one like you. Well, best wishes from my side. Hope you will get success this time.March 28, 2018 at 6:57 pm #1493smash12Participant
This is so adorable of you. I wish I also had a sister like you. Really, sisters are blessings to each other. It is decent to hear that you are occupied with helping your sister. More imperative that it has dependably been her fantasy. All things considered, being a surrogate isn’t a major assignment. I trust you won’t experience serious difficulties. Simply carry on with a sound way of life and abstain from drinking or smoking.
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