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    Eleni Dalton

    I decided to write, because I would like with my own little adventure to give hope to the candidate moms have difficulty becoming a child or because they are unlucky or because they suffer due to some gynecological problem .So we married eight years ago and after a year of marriage we started trying for a kid … just 31 years old and I and my husband. Have spent a year trying and getting pregnant anywhere! We started to be disappointed when we did a lot of tests. My husband is all right. I had a problem, and specifically polycystic ovaries! That’s why I’ve always been a volatile circle.And the worst thing was that each gynecologist had proposed an altercation to our problem! Another one spoke to me of poultice poultices with hormones and injections. We started treatment with hormone pills. And I’m pregnant with my first attempt! Our great joy, but unfortunately our “good” luck had other plans. I lost the child from a reciprocal pregnancy in the fifth week … And then our gynecologist told us that nature prevents and the problematic fetuses that the organ is eliminated on its own. When, then, we went to a maternity clinic, got scratched, and sent for special examinations the karyotype of our fetus … no one had a problem, it was healthy. It is meant that I was ecstatic, and of course I changed gynecologist. The new doctor told me about thrombophilia. I did some expensive examinations that are not covered by the cashiers. I actually had thrombophilia. This was why my first pregnancy was lost. Whenever after another 6 months I get pregnant with the first attempt immediately I start injections every day! I have been tempted to bite my belly up every day! But unfortunately, for one more time: in the 12th week we made the cervical transparency!The next and every day, they took me for an examination and it hurt me very much.And even more I hurt with the result. my child had a syndrome … and after two days I was in for a medical blast. The worst of all was that I had to put my signature on to make it. I did not want to see a pregnant woman in front of me! I was feeling cursed, wronged, I was very carpeting if I tried to show to those who dried up, for example, to parents and haters, to show that nothing is running. Meanwhile my husband only understood me. We lived every day together, I cannot hide it, but I feel sorry for being sorry. I had all this bad luck over me, why should I have to explain explaining what happened to me or how exactly I felt? Please, if you have polycystic ovaries, do not be disappointed because there are solutions. I know that doctors may say it, but one another. And those who have lost such unfair embryos in your pregnancies … are not the monks. Unfortunately, nature is unfair many times , life itself is full of injustice.

    June Mike

    I’m very sad to hear you had to go through this, its heartbreaking when you lose a child. I myself had gone through 3 miscarriages before my eldest was born. I went into a depression and couldn’t get out of bed. I know how you feel and believe me you’re not alone. Give yourself some time to heal mentally and emotionally. I gave myself a whole year before trying again. Stay strong and keep your faith in yourself. This time will pass and you will get over this grief. Best of luck!


    Hi Eleni. I’m sorry for what you had to go through. Don’t lose hope, honey. If carrying a child is not possible, then try something else. Have you thought about adopting a child? Is that an option for you? You could even go for surrogacy. Let me know if you want more information.


    Hi, dear. I hope you are doing great. So sorry to hear that you had been TTC in vain. I guess you are doing so good by sharing it with us. So, you have identified what is causing the problem- polycystic ovaries. Thrombophilia is a grave problem, as you have experienced first hand. So, I am sure your story helps bring awareness around thrombophilia. Great to hear that your DH is so supportive all along. I understand how others can be so negative in these crucial times. So, it makes sense to have someone so supportive next to you. I have never dealt with polycycstic ovaries, however, I will be sharing your post with others. I have had a friend, Sonia, dealing with it. I am happy to hear that I am going to be able to suggest her something. GOod to know that there are solutions that one can take it. I appreciate your post so much. I wish you the best of luck. Don’t forget to keep us updated.


    Such a story to read. I sympathies with you dear. More than 7 years trying to conceive. I can say that your husband loves you that much. He has been there for you at your lowest times. He should not even leave you yet. I believe it is the care and support that keeps you going. I am also glad that you have decided to share this hear. It will surely heal someone. Many people are looking for children. That they forget their own happiness in search for a child. Sometimes I feel this is not good. It is like feeding your mind junk. Forcing yourself into something that has a low chance of happening. I am not saying that conceiving will be difficult. But sometimes forgetting about all that stress can relieve you. You will find peace. And maybe, just maybe a child might come knocking. I really do wish that no one could be going through this difficult situation. But as you have said. Life sometimes is so unfair. I do hope that one day you find happiness.


    So true. Life is not always fair to everyone. I can say that you have been through a lot. But you never gave up. Battling with thrombophilia must have been a battle itself. But it is better that it was identified. Rather than you could be getting pregnant and losing the children. That could mean you could be going along way. However, with the medication did still help. Do not despair dear. There is a long life ahead. You should live it with confidence and love. At time the search for a child leaves us heartbroken. That we forget other things that we have. We so much focus on having a child. That we do not enjoy the moment. That is so bad. It is like stressing one self. In which at that particular situation it is not good fo0r your health. While TTC you should be happy and relaxed. Do not stress yourself over the failure of not having a child. That is not your mistake. I can call it nature. Rather, focus on positivity and good vibes. I believe while you are trying to get a child. The luck will come on its own along the way.


    Yours is a long story. I will try to help any woman who has been through the same by offering some of the solutions when dealing with pcos. If you are overweight or obese, losing weight through healthy eating, including eating the right amount of calories for you, and regular physical activity can help make your menstrual cycle more regular and improve your fertility. After ruling out other causes of infertility in you and your partner, your doctor might prescribe medicine to help you ovulate, such as clomiphene (Clomid). IVF may be an option if medicine does not work. Surgery is also an option, usually only if the other options do not work. The outer shell (called the cortex) of ovaries is thickened in women with PCOS and thought to play a role in preventing spontaneous ovulation. Ovarian drilling is a surgery in which the doctor makes a few holes in the surface of your ovary using lasers or a fine needle heated with electricity.


    I am going for the surrogacy option as their is no other way to have a baby of my own.
    I consulted a clinic regarding surrogacy they provided me a positive feedback.
    There are very good clinics regarding surrogacy as i’m sharing my experience with all of you.
    For now i have convinced mt husband to go for surrogacy and he is ready too.
    You should also have a look at BioTexCom clinic.
    I contacted a clinic for surrogacy method and they responded very well to my questions.
    I suggest you to go for this clinic and atleast you should contact them and share your problem with them so that they can propose a better solution for you.
    As they suggested surrogacy option for us.
    Now they are looking for a good woman for our baby who can carry our baby in her womb for 9 months.
    They will find a good female with all clear tests so that we don’t have to face any issue later.
    But i am worried about somethings also.
    But that doesn’t matter as we don’t have any other option left for us.
    Positive feedback will be appreciated.


    Elini, I’m very sorry to know about your story. You have gone through a very hard phase in your life. You have definitely suffered a lot. I understand that life has not been treating you well in the past. I know things messed up and you lost faith in yourself. Sometimes, such things do happen to all of us. One way or the other. We lose our hope. But I know you’re a strong lady. You’ll recover from all this pain. Be brave and strong. Leave everything behind. You need to think how important your life is. If you think TTC naturally is not working for you, then look around for alternatives. There are so many. How about going for surrogacy? That will surely help. We all are here to support you. Good luck!


    Hey! this not end of life. I tried to conceive a baby 3 times but the result was a miscarriage. I can understand what you are suffering from. Surrogacy is last option. I suggest you go for it. The baby that would be carried by surrogate mother, will belong to you genetically. There is nothing bad in it. The Ukrainian clinic is best for surrogacy. You should visit it. Don’t lose hope. You can also go for IVF process. But I would suggest you surrogacy because it is more successful. I have heard success stories of surrogacy.hope this would work.


    Hi Dear! I’m so sorry for your losses. You have had to go through some really troubled time. I was unable to conceive as well due to different reasons. I went the surrogacy route. It was a great experience. I have my beautiful baby girl now. I would definitely recommend the procedure to those having troubles TTC. Prayers and wishes.


    Well Elani, it’s really sad. But you seem to be a brave lady as you have shared your story here. Yes, life is sometimes very harsh. Even you don’t know why is all this happening to you. Three years back when I was diagnosed with double infertility I was in the same condition in which you are nowadays. Life seemed to be like hell. I thought that I was the only person who was facing this problem. But then I joined a group of people having the same issue. This condition is very rear. When both the partners are infertile. There someone suggested my surrogacy. My husband wanted adoption. But I convinced him. When you have a better option in the form of surrogacy. Then why going for adoption. Now, next month I am going to Ukraine for my surrogacy. I am quite relaxed and hopeful now. Because the clinic I have selected is one of the best clinics in the world. I am quite sure I will be successful. You also try to find the other ways of getting the most wanted wish of your life. Good luck.


    Your story is so touching. I cannot believe that it is one person who underwent through all that. I am proud of you that you made it at the end of the day. The journey might be difficult but you came out as a conqueror. While you’ve always dreamed of a family ‘some day’. There’s literally nothing you can do about PCOS unless you’re at the point of planning a family. The very mention of PCOS brings out a second, third or even fourth-hand story in most friends: ‘Oh, well my mum’s friend’s daughter had polycystic ovaries and now she’s got, like, five kids!’ or ‘Yeah, but did you hear about Emily? Her older sister had PCOS when she was 35 and still had a baby. Everyone seems to know a story with a happy outcome, but if rom-coms have taught us nothing, it’s that we should assume we’re the rule and not the exception.

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