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Hi, Noreen.
Nice to see you again. So sorry to hear about your sister’s MC. I know how miscarriages is hard. 5 years of marriage with no kids can be heart-breaking. So, great that you are trying to get in & help her. You are doing great by being so thoughtful of you. Regarding the prices, yes she has to pick up the costs for the procedure (embryo transfer & stuff). Yes, I really do think that is fair enough. Go, girl!36 is still young, let me tell you. Just keep going. I know it gets so tiring at times. However, your best move is to just keep trying I guess. So, are you about to start your heparin injections? So, you live far away, and you have to postpone. So sorry to hear that. We just have to accept that these things occur in life, and move on. Keep sharing your feelings and thoughts here. Users like me find useful info. And, bottling up feelings is never healthy
Noreen, that is so selfless of you to do that. I love when relatives can jump in & help like that. As others have said it, surrogacy can be expensive for some people. So, it is incredibly amazing that you can do that for your sister. I haven’t experienced it first hand myself either. So, she is only gonna cover the costs of the clinic. I see you are doing good by looking for a cheaper clinic, right? I guess you should get online and start looking for them. While researching, be very careful. I have heard there are so many not so kosher websites that charge to access their files. I have had my colleague at work search for clinics, and she got a charge on her card. SO, you want to be super careful about that. I don’t want to scare you or anything. I am just giving you a heads-up. Also, make sure while accessing the sites, your browser says it is Secure. Anyways, good luck with your first experience as a surrogate.
By the way, I know how overwhelming this situation is. I have been TTC for 4 years, so I really can relate to what you are saying. Still, as I mentioned earlier, every cloud has a silver lining. Keep that in mind going forward. Life presents a few challenges, which we can overcome. By overcoming, and staying positive, you get to develop your self-control, which is key in any sphere of our lives. Read up on a good book, or binge-watch a show, you have love. These two I do on religiously, and I consider them essential in helping me reduce my stress
So, you tried alternative therapies, and reduced your anxiety levels. However, you still failed
It is very easy to feel stressed during in these times. However, you should try to stay cool, calm & collected. I know it is just easier said than done. I guess stress levels in a factor in your indecisiveness. Thanks for sharing your story with us here. I encourage you to take steps to reduce your stress levels. I wish you the best of luckz
Also, regarding your mother-in-law, that is a typical mother-in-law behavior. I always hear or read stories about how mother-in-laws tend to point the finger at the wife. I know why they might get so protective of their sons. Still, you should encourage your DH to go get spermogram done to see the results. That way, your mother-in-law won’t be pointing the finger at you anymore. I hope that will help you set the record straight once and for all. Also, I hope that your mother-in-law will become supportive. Good luck to you with everything.
Hi, Susan. I am Sandy, nice to meet you. So sorry that you had been TTC with no results so far. I am sure that future has great things in stock for you. I believe in that for sure. So, don’t lose hope. The last thing you want in TTC is stress and stress. So, make sure you do your best to avoid getting mad at someone. I have actually become more proactive in my approach. I just think about situations where I might be angry, so I do my best to minimize that.
Hello there. Congrats on your 4 kids. I can imagine ho happy you must have been. I think it is so great that you were able to be a surrogate for your brother. SO happy to hear about that. I
I wish you and your brother happiness. For my case, I have been TTC for 4 years, which is a quite long time. However, I am planning to give up and go with either surrogacy or IVF. I haven’t decided yet. If my husband will decide to go with surrogacy, I will surely be letting you know. I don’t know how much surrogates usually charge. But, will you be willing to let us know your rates. I have heard that independent surrogates are usually cheaper. However, since I am a newbie to surrogacy and all that, I have no solid idea on it. I would love to get to know more about your rates. In the meantime, thanks for giving heads-up. 10 babies must be handful. I wish you good luck with your four kids.Hi there. I hope you are doing great. So sorry to hear that you had been suffering from polycystic ovaries. I know common they are in women. But, they sure are treatable. Regarding your diagnosed hypothyroidism, I am sorry to hear that. However, it is good that you had been taking steps to cure it. Your weight loss 20 pounds in 4 months is impressive. My Mom had been trying for years to lose weight. I mean she is doing everything she can, but it just does not work out for her. I am sure other women here will also find your story enouraging and motivating. YOu are so right to encourage others to do various tests. I also think that preventing a disease is way easier than treating. So, I surely will be getting checked out periodically. I have been TTC for 4 years. I am guessing it is time for IVF. Anyways, sorry to starting to talk about myself. I wish you good luck. Thanks for sharing this with us
Hi, dear. I hope you are doing great. So sorry to hear that you had been TTC in vain. I guess you are doing so good by sharing it with us. So, you have identified what is causing the problem- polycystic ovaries. Thrombophilia is a grave problem, as you have experienced first hand. So, I am sure your story helps bring awareness around thrombophilia. Great to hear that your DH is so supportive all along. I understand how others can be so negative in these crucial times. So, it makes sense to have someone so supportive next to you. I have never dealt with polycycstic ovaries, however, I will be sharing your post with others. I have had a friend, Sonia, dealing with it. I am happy to hear that I am going to be able to suggest her something. GOod to know that there are solutions that one can take it. I appreciate your post so much. I wish you the best of luck. Don’t forget to keep us updated.
Hi, Sammy. Welcome to the group. It is great that you decided join our online family by sharing your story. I know how heart-breaking it must have been for you. Experiencing two losses in a row is surely heart-breaking itself. However, It is great that you understand, at 43, pregnancy, although possible, is usually difficult. I am happy to hear that you understand the difficulties that come with age. I have been TTC for 4 years now, I know it sounds so saddening. But, I am trying to keep myself sane by being positive about it. I also think you have great chances of success this time. I hope so. Regarding positivity, you could not be more right on this one, though. As usual, it is key to stay positive. Anyways, sorry if I had rambled on too much. I wish you the very best of luck. I hope everything will work out for you this time. IVF, can really be effective for you right now. Sending you baby dust, SAmmy.
Hello, Meredith. Welcome to the forum. I am also a newbie here on the forum, and have been loving it so far. SO, you are 33, which is a good age to get pregnant. I see you had been on the pills till April. As you might, or not know, pills mess up your cycles. The same happened to me last year. I had been on contraceptives for months, and then I ended up with irregular ovulation. Yes, you sure can try for a year. That is what I think you should do. Correcting your cycles will surely take time. The process will also call for patience. What meds have you been prescribed. I think mostly you are put on some meds.
I know how you might feel right now! Just try to take it easy. It is very easy to feel down during TTC. I had been trying for 4 years with no result. So, I feel like I need to go with IVF. However, in your case, you should keep trying. I wish you the best of luck.
Hi, Rachel. I hope you are feeling good. So sorry to hear that you had been long TTC for months. I know months sounds way easier than 4 years (in my case). However, I get how depressed you must feel over this. 27 is a good age to conceive, and your DH’s age is also very conducive at 33.2. So, I am confident there is no issue with the age. Also, good to hear that your laparoscopy was successful. You have done the right thing by going for laparoscopy to remove your endometriosis. So, your husband also got checked out. Simple spermogram is also very effective and useful. Glad to see that he has zero issues as well. I think you should keep trying no matter what. DO like a ovulation chart, that will help you a whole lot. I mean, ensure that you engage in intercourse during your window. Also, try to exercise that way can ensure your ovaries get enough blood flow. Exams, although seemed unnecessary, are crucial. So, just keep trying, as others also recommended. I wish you good luck!
Hello, Anna. I hope you are doing great. So sorry to hear about your experience. Yes, 44 is a difficult age which presents a few challenges. On top of that you had a horrible doctor. Yes, horrible. I have been to a few gynecologist and doctor appointments, however, I have never first hand experienced such negligent conduct on the part of the doctor. I find it quite disturbing that doctors can act in a such a way that impacts the patients. I think you should go ahead with your hormonal exams. These exams are key in identifying what is causing you the problem. I hope things will get better for you. Just don’t lose hope. Having faith in your dreams is key. So, I suggest you try to weather through the ‘crisis’ and recover mentally. I wish you good luck with your journey. I hope you will get a doctor who is worth their salt this time. Just be very careful with the doctors. There are so many doctors out there willing to capitalize on our vulnerabilities.